I wish that I had more children

Dear Pastor,

A very peaceful day to you. I am a regular reader of your column and I listen to you on the radio almost every night.

Sometimes I get upset when I can't hear you on the radio. My husband has been listening longer than me. Sometimes I tell him that he should take time laughing but he enjoys your show so much. We can call ourselves old people now because our children have grown and are on their own, and we don't have much to do except enjoy each other's company.

We are both retired. I was a teacher and served in the classroom for many years. My husband enjoyed his work in construction. We built a home after we fell in love and got married. My father gave us a piece of land and told my husband that he should not get me pregnant until he was able to put his stuff in a place that he can call his own. That was good enough for my husband. We worked hard and built a two-bedroom house, then we expanded by building another two bedrooms. We have two daughters. They are married and they love their father more than me. He never flogged them. I told him that he spoiled these girls. They have lovely husbands who know that the day they illtreat them, they are going to leave them and return home. But we do not have any fear about that because our girls are happy.

I told my husband that the only regret that I have is not having more children. We did not see that when we were young, but looking back, I believe we could have had more children. We have enough in the bank to take care of us and we have a very good pension plan. We have three grandchildren and we try our best to help them. I want to encourage the young girls of today to love their husbands and to take care of them. Good men are hard to find but men are also looking for good women and they must not be money grabbers.

I told my daughters that I want more grandchildren but they said I should be satisfied with the ones I have now. Sometimes I enjoy seeing my husband and his grandchildren playing and I enjoy cooking for them.

T.,

Dear T.,

I am happy to hear that you continue to enjoy reading my column and that you also enjoy the Dear Pastor show.

Your father taught your husband well and he gave him a good start by offering both of you a piece of property. Your husband knew that property is the foundation of wealth, so both of you worked hard and built a home together.

Now that you look back, you believe that your husband and you should have had more children and now you are suggesting to your children that they should do. I think that they are correct in telling you to be satisfied with what you have. They are quite correct - be happy with what you have. You have a beautiful family.

Pastor