My husband is no good with money

Dear Pastor,

This is the third time I am writing to you. I always read your column. Had it not been for your column, my husband and I would have broken up long ago. But we have taken your advice and we have stayed together.

One day my husband and I had an argument and I told him that I was going to leave him because I was tired of his foolishness. He told me that whenever I was ready to pack, he would assist me. He said that there are other women who would gladly take my place. I could not believe that my husband would be so out of order to tell me that other women would take my place. He said that is the truth and he will not shed a tear if I want to leave because he was tired of my nagging.

I do not nag my husband, I only talk the truth, but he does not like to hear me speak the truth. My husband makes much more money than I do, but he is very careless in the way he spends it. We do not own our own home, but my husband is always planning trips. I told him that it is time for us to stop travelling so often and that we should not go to hotels when we travel. We can stay at the homes of relatives, but he does not like staying with relatives. Every time we go abroad, my husband rents a car and that takes away a lot of money.

We have two sons and he likes his sons to be with us, I tell him that sometimes we can leave them at home with their grandparents, but he ignores me all the time. Then he complains and says that I am too annoying. I will never leave my husband. I know that he was serious when he said he would help me pack. It will not be easy for me to find a replacement for this man. I know that he cannot be replaced.

Recently we brought a property and we are planning to build a three-bedroom house with two bathrooms, so I cannot allow any woman to reap the benefits of my hard labour with this man. Whenever the house is built, we will invite you to bless it because you were the one who officiated at our wedding. Thank you, Pastor.

V.J.

Dear V.J.,

You should stop telling this man that you are going to leave. Even if you say that in jest, it is not a good thing to say.

A woman can always find another man, but a good man is hard to find and you should know that. A woman is easy to find, but it is hard for a man to find a good woman. So stop threatening this man by telling him that you are going to leave him.

Some men, when they go on vacation, do not like to stay with relatives. So I would suggest that you limit your vacation to once per year or once every two years. You are fortunate to have a man who takes the family on vacation. Some families don't go on vacation at all. You have a good man; learn to live with him.

Pastor