I am trying hard to get pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am a Christian young woman and I got married to a Christian man three years ago. We love each other very much and we try to please each other. We are trying to have a child, but it seems as if it is taking a long time to happen. My husband is not worried, but I am.

When I meet my friends, they ask me if nothing is happening yet and I say no. Even my bishop wanted to know what is wrong and why I am not yet pregnant. I told him he should ask my husband. He said that my husband may take up stones and stone him. We laughed about it, but it bothered me. When my husband and I have sex, he ejaculates in me, but I have never experienced an orgasm. But I enjoy my husband. The doctor says that although I may not experience orgasms like some women do, that is not preventing me from getting pregnant. Is my doctor right? People tell me that my husband and I should do different sexual positions. We have tried them all. I prefer the missionary position. My husband enjoys them all. My husband is 30 years old and I am 25. I would love to have a baby girl. Please for your suggestions.

C.T.

Dear C.T.,

I want to encourage you to believe your doctor. Some women, believe it or not, have never reached an orgasm. But that does not mean that they do not enjoy making love. But women who have orgasms all the time say that there is something sweet and wonderful about it, and they wish all women would enjoy them. There are many things that a woman can do to cause her to experience an orgasm, but I would not go into that here. Suffice it to say that your Christian husband and yourself may wish to consider making an appointment to see a sex therapist, who would listen to both of you and try to teach you what to do so that you can get an orgasm. But your doctor is correct. Not having an orgasm is not what is preventing you from getting pregnant. So put that aside. I do not want to discourage you in any way. If you are physically well and you husband is also well, it would be just a matter of time before you get pregnant. I have known of couples who have been married for years before they had their first child. So do not worry at all. These different sex positions that people talk about may work for some couples. But if you practise to do them, then you know from experience that if they work, you would have been pregnant already. So my suggestion is that you enjoy your partner and leave the rest in God’s hand.

Pastor