Girlfriend tricked her parents so we could have sex

Dear Pastor,

I am 19 years old and my girlfriend is also 19. My father knows her. My father told me that I should not have a serious girlfriend at my age. He did not have a girlfriend until he was 22.

My girlfriend has been having sex from she was 17. She was the one who got me involved in that thing named sex. One day when my girlfriend's parents were at church, I went to see her. She had arranged everything. She lied and told them that she was not feeling well just to get me to come over and spend time with her in bed. I had sex with her right on her bed. She had bought a pack of condoms. I did not even know how to put on the condom, but she put it on for me. I spent an hour with her after we had sex and she wanted me to do it again with her before leaving, but I could not because my penis was hurting me. Pastor, I have a problem with her. She loves to use her money and buy false hair and she loves to dress up. She does not have to do that because my girlfriend is a very attractive girl. She has a flat backside, but I do not have a problem with it. She has friends in America who send her fake backsides and when she puts them on, if I did not know her, I would not recognise her. My father told me not to get married to the first girl who I fall in love with, but I love my girlfriend very much. Please tell me what to do.

C.W.

Dear C.W.,

I am glad that you and your father have such a great relationship. I did not hear you mention your mother, but I hope you share the same relationship with her as you do with your father. Your girlfriend started to have sex early, but she also learned how to protect herself. She lied so that she could have you come to the house. I once counselled a girl who was pregnant for a guy. She grew up in a home where her parents were very strict and when I asked her how she was able to go with a guy and get pregnant although her parents were very strict, she said that she was able to have sex with the man by lying to her parents about not feeling well so she could not go to church that Sunday and her boyfriend came and had sex with her. So, young girls lie to their parents about things when they want to go with their boyfriends. Parents should not say what their sons or daughters would not do, but learn this young man, if your girlfriend was brave enough to tell you about her lies, do not be surprised if she would lie about other things. I am not saying here that you should leave her, but I am telling you to prepare for even bigger lies from her. Sex can be sweet, but do not allow having sex with her to take your mind off of a good education. Focus on your education and encourage your girlfriend to do the same.

Pastor