Boyfriend doesn’t trust me

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 and I have a visiting relationship. My boyfriend is 31 and is divorced. His marriage did not last long and he has a hard time trusting women.

He was born in Jamaica but came to America and finished high school here. He is a sweet soul and any woman would like him. I have two boys and they love him to death. I am not interested in having more children, but he wants one. He is very jealous. Whenever my boys' father calls the house and I am talking to him about the boys, he gets very jealous and I have to assure him repeatedly that there is nothing between us. I have never cheated on him. There is no reason for me to do so. How can I assure him that I am happy in the relationship that we have? He calls all women 'cheaters' and it bothers me, because I know that I am not a cheater. We have a very good sex life, but how can this relationship go on if he doesn't trust me?

P.A.

Dear P.A.,

The heart of this man is not yet healed. When he got involved with you, he should not have done so, because he is not yet ready for a relationship. That is most unfortunate and that must hurt you. What I would suggest is that you talk to this man straight and tell him that both of you should make an appointment to see a family counsellor and discuss the matter, because you feel very uneasy about him making assertions that all women are cheaters. If the relationship between the both of you should continue, he has to cease doing so.

Pastor