Husband only wants sex once a month

Dear Pastor,

I have tried to call you many times but I have been unsuccessful. I have listened to you and I have been enlightened. I am 56 years old and my husband is 70.

I don't know what is happening to him these days but he is not interested in sex any more. I have tried to do everything. Friends have told me that I should give him green juice and I have done that. I make sure that he gets his carrot juice and his eggnog and everything. He gets an erection, that is not a problem. When he wants to have sex he does it, but that is like once a month, and if I am lucky, we may do it twice a month. I asked my husband what I should do when I felt for sex. He said I should just wait on him and I should not be greedy. I am not greedy, Pastor, but at times I feel for sex. My husband knows that I will not cheat on him. I used to wear underwear, now I don't wear anything at all when I am going to bed and I try to guide his hand in my favour, but that makes him sleep even more.

A man was going through the district selling fruits and told me how attractive I was. I thanked him. I am not interested in any man who tells me how nice I look. What I want is for you to tell me why my husband is ignoring me. If I could only get 10 or 15 minutes of attention once a week from this man it would make me very happy. I remember the days when my husband would be all over me night and day. I used to enjoy that but I used to tell him that he was very greedy. When I call on him now to have a little sex, he tells me that I am the greedy one and the longer he stays to have sex with me, he is preserving the little substance that is in him. I told him that he was not wasting his substance if he was giving it to me. I don't know what to do to turn him on. I am looking forward to your answer.

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

Let me begin by saying that at least your husband is functioning and it is natural that the older he gets he will slow down. You are not even 60 years old yet so you still look forward to sex much more often than he does. I want you to understand, though, that some men who are your husband's age go for sex more often while their wives slow down. That is why some older men get involved with women who are so much younger and sexy. At 70, your husband has not given up sex, he just does not want to engage in it as often as before. Please understand that I am not taking sides with your husband, I am just asking you to go easy on him.

I would think that sex once or twice a month is not bad for people your age. Some folks may disagree with me but that is better than none at all. Learn to enjoy yourself in different ways without the actual sexual intercourse. Keep taking care of your husband, massage him, let him see and do everything you can to show him that he is the best and greatest man on earth.

Pastor