Hooker sister-in-law wants to spend time with my kids

September 27, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I listen to you every night on radio, but I have been reading your column from a very young age. You are doing a fine job. I am from St Catherine, and my husband and I have four children -- two boys and two girls. We do not want anymore children. My husband is five years younger than I am, but he is a hard worker. He is a businessman.

My husband has a sister who operates as a 'lady of the night'. Business is slow with her, so she can hardly pay her rent. She knows that I am aware of the type of business she does. She does not have children and she lives in an upscale community. I told her to give up her apartment. She found a man who was on a short vacation to Jamaica. He is Caucasian, and he has started to pay her rent.

She does not go out during the night anymore because of the restrictions, but her clients go to the house everyday, and my children -- who were not aware of the type of business that she does -- went to spend a weekend with her. Their father dropped them at her house. When he went back for them, they told their father that they do not want to go back there "because aunty is at home all day and different men come to see her and she hardly wear clothes". Some of her clients are 'big officials' who go to visit her.

CHILDREN UNDERSTAND

The children are old enough to know that the life she is living is not good. They said all they did was to play games on the computer and eat fast-food. This woman wants me to send the other two for a visit, but I am reluctant because I don't want her to spoil my children.

Her brother loves her so much. She asked him to bring them but I told him if they are going to go, I will have to go with them, and I don't want them to spend overnight at her place. This girl is not a dunce, she has gone to college but over the years, she has been using her body to support herself and to live big.

D.

Dear D.,

You would be careless if you allow your children to go and spend weekends or so with your sister-in-law knowing the type of woman that she is. She is constantly entertaining men and that would be bad influence on your children. You have not condemned her for the life she is living. You have taken the correct attitude toward your sister-in-law, but clearly you do not want to encourage her to continue in that lifestyle.

She has not given up her apartment and I suppose she needs space to entertain her clients but when your children visited her, they did not appreciate how she dressed and they could sense that her behaviour was not becoming. You should insist that if your children have to go back there, you would accompany them. Stand firm on that. You are an intelligent woman and you know what this woman is doing is not something you can approve.

Pastor

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