My friend has been sleeping with my husband

Dear Pastor,

I found you to be very open and straight-forward and that's the reason I am writing to you. I am a married woman and I am pregnant with my first child.

My husband and I have enjoyed a good relationship. He is a good husband to me, but I have found out that my husband is seeing another woman and this woman is a very good friend of ours. When I asked my husband if he had sex with her, he said no and that he would never do that. I called the woman and asked her if she had slept with my husband and she also said no, but I have an uneasy spirit about it and whenever my husband was late in coming home, I wondered if he was with her.

On one morning when my husband was away at work I called the girl and I lied to her. I told her that my husband had admitted to me that they had been sleeping together and she confessed that they had sex a number of times since I have been pregnant, but she was not doing so because she wants to take my husband away. She said that she was only having sex with him to 'help me out' because she knew that I couldn't manage. I feel devastated. Since getting pregnant, I have never turned down my husband when he wanted sex. I can't hate my husband, but sometimes I feel I should hate my friend for having sex with my husband. Please give your input.

G.

Dear G.,

You have had a good marriage. Your husband loves you and you love him. Something good has happened to you in that you have become pregnant, but you are not the sexy-looking girl you used to be and that is affecting your husband. Your girlfriend who comes around has this sexy-looking body and he has fallen for her. He went after her and he did not reject her so both of them should be blamed for what they have done. Both of them have now admitted to what they did, so I would say to you, please do not allow what they have done to torment your spirit and to destroy your marriage. But regardless of how close you have been with this woman, end the friendship with her and after you have given birth, make an appointment for your husband and yourself to see a family counsellor and try to rebuild the good relationship you have had over these years.

Pastor