Regret sleeping with my friend’s man

October 13, 2020

Dear Pastor,

I want to tell you something that has happened to me, and I want your advice. I came to live in Kingston in April. I am staying with a girlfriend.

She is not working, so her boyfriend is paying her rent and taking care of her. I had a relationship with her boyfriend some time ago, but my girlfriend did not know that.

When I realised that she is with him I did not say anything. I never told her, but I mentioned it to him that I didn't like the situation. He told me not to make her know.

But Pastor, I have always liked this man. Every opportunity I get to talk to him, I do. We text each other a lot.

I am working, but as I mentioned, my girlfriend is not working. But very soon, I will go back to the country because this job is not permanent.

I am filling in for another friend of mine who has gone to Canada. One day my girlfriend had to go to the doctor. Her boyfriend was aware of it, so he dropped her off and came back.

He was so glad that we were there together. He texted me and told me that he would pick me up during lunchtime; I begged him not to.

But he ignored me and showed up at my workplace. When I asked him where we were going, he said home. This man romanced me for a half-hour.

So I became very weak. I could not help myself, so we had sex. After having sex with him, I went to the bathroom and showered and changed.

I was in a hurry to get back to work. But I did not hide my underwear. I forgot. He bought me fast food and took me back to work.

When I got back from work, my girlfriend asked me if I came home and I told her yes. She asked me why and told her that my period came and I had to rush home.

My friend said, "Oh, I saw your underwear in a different place from where you left it this morning." From that time, I have not been comfortable with my girlfriend.

I believe that she suspects that her boyfriend and I had sex, and that is because of my carelessness. The love that I have for this man is growing, but I have one more month to go before leaving this place. I don't know what to do.


Dear M.J.,

You are too 'nuff'. You are 'kotching' with this girl and at the same time you are having sex with her boyfriend. Yes, you knew the guy before, but the relationship ended and you should not have renewed this relationship to the extent where you found it very comfortable to have sex with him.

And to make matters worse, you were not even careful. You had sex with this young man and forgot to put away your underwear. You should get out of the house, because it is likely that you are going to cause problems. Try and find a place where you can board.


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