Should I marry this man?

Dear Pastor,

Greetings in the mighty name of Jesus, our soon coming King. I'm a regular reader of your column and I must commend you on the wonderful work that you are doing, keep it up.

I'm seeking your kind counselling. I met a gentleman a few years ago when I visited a branch of my church. He was very warm and welcoming and very respectful.

He was married at the time and he spoke highly of his family.

However, one day I was out and I saw him coming from the doctor. He said he wasn't feeling well and he was waiting on his driver.

I waited with him and we grabbed something to eat in the meantime. While waiting, his wife approached us and without asking any questions, she started accusing us of having a relationship and calling me names.

Pastor, this man has never disrespected me or even attempted to touch me in any way. Few months later, she kicked him out and put a restraining order against him.

She went on Facebook and removed my pictures and kept sending them to persons, saying that I mashed up her life.

When they didn't agree with her, she cursed them in the most disgraceful way. They have been separated now for more than three years and he now wants to have a relationship with me and wants us to get married. What should I do?

K.M

Dear K.M.,

I suggest that you discuss this matter with your pastor. This man and you are members of the same denomination and his wife has accused him of things you say he is not guilty of.

But now, he is asking you to marry him. Some people may say that proves that both of you were having an intimate relationship and that his wife was right all along.

Therefore, you should definitely talk to your pastor and ask him for guidance. If you believe that you love him enough to marry him, you should make sure that he has got a divorce. I wish you well. May the Lord grant you wisdom.

Pastor