Me and my cousin are sharing the same man

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you, but I am a regular reader of your column. I am having a problem. I have a boyfriend. We have been together for two years.

When we started to date, he told me that he had another girlfriend. I told him I wasn't interested.

Anyway, we continued to meet each other. I asked him if he had a picture of his girlfriend and he said he would show me.

He went into his phone, and to my surprise, his girlfriend was my cousin. I told him I wasn't interested. He wouldn't stop harassing me until I found myself liking him.

I called my cousin and asked her about him, but I did not call his name. I only asked her how was her boyfriend. She told me things were not going well between them and that she was dating another guy.

I asked her if that relationship was serious and she said yes, because she had been sleeping with the other guy.

I did not tell my boyfriend what my cousin told me. But my boyfriend was still seeing her. I know that happened because she said she is now pregnant for my boyfriend.

I feel very bad about the situation because if the child belongs to my boyfriend, I would not want anything to do with him because he would be having relationships with two cousins.

Please give me your advice, Pastor.

P.L.

Dear P.L.,

I am not here to condemn you. I am not in that at all. However, I think you are careless. When you were informed that your cousin had a relationship with this man who told you that he loves you, you should have walked away. You should not have encouraged him or showed interest in him.

You did the right thing by calling your cousin, but when you got such information from her, you probably felt that this man was speaking the truth and that your cousin was seeing another person and was intimate with him. So you figured that you could continue with this man.

Your cousin evidently was continuing to see him while she was with a new lover. So this guy was with you and your cousin at the same time.

That is why she can now say that it is he who has got her pregnant. Time will tell. As soon as your cousin has given birth, a DNA test will help to ascertain whether your boyfriend is the father of this child.

In the meantime, I would not encourage you to go any further with this man who continues to have a relationship with your cousin. End your friendship with him now.

Pastor